Definitive Traits of a Middle Child

Birth order doesn’t automatically impact your personality. But there are some common traits that middle children share—beyond peacekeeping.

Middle children have strong friendships and relationships

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ɑ middle child tends to prioritize relationships outside of the family unit, according to Lisa Lewis, MD. “Middle children, probably because they feel overlooked, will have ɑ tendency to create stronger friendships and long-term relationships,” Lewis says. They rely more heavily on relationships with their peers than with family as they see outsiders meeting their needs for emotional support, Nedra Glover Tawwab, Licensed Clinical ѕοϲiɑӀ Worker and Owner of Kaleidoscope Counseling in Charlotte, NC adds. Here are the facts that prove having friends is ridiculously healthy.

Middle children are great mediators

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Most middle children are peacekeepers. Since they are sandwiched between other siblings, they are often obsessed with fairness and balance. GinaMarie Guarino, ɑ Licensed Mental Health Counselor Family Therapist, says that middle children also tend to manage conflict between siblings as well. “ɑ middle child will hold ɑ special relationship with each sibling, which helps him or her be able to mediate between the two and provide ɑ balance between the oldest and youngest,” Guarino says.

Middle children are wonderful negotiators

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When middle children aren’t mediating family fights, they are making solid points for their own agendas. Thanks to good listening skills and patience, they know how to grab their parents’ attention—and negotiate for what they want. Or, as Frank Sulloway, Ph.D. puts it, “Middle-borns are the most willing to wheel and deal.”

Middle children are easygoing

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Being good mediators also helps middles compromise—meaning they are more likely to go with the flow rather than act stubborn of contentious, Guarino says. Plus, some parents may have more relaxed parenting styles by the time the second kid comes around. This is how your birth order could impact your health.